I like the theory that regardless of how useless, irrational and self-defeating sexual jealousy is, it might be grounded in evolutionary reality. I can live with the cause of my irrational worries being derived from when we were more animal than iPod. Waste of time, but it has some Clan of the Cave Bear legend to it. Cool.
But the sub-phenomena that is far more interesting is what I call auto-reactive jealousy. This is when someone is jealous for no other reason than being jealous. When the significant other isn’t really so significant but jealousy is still involved. Why would anyone get jealous being only half-assed interested in someone? At first this made absolutely no sense to me. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that relationships are always testing compatibility by trying out the different gender/social/sexual scripts that have been absorbed throughout one’s life. We’re actually taught jealously as a culturally natural and normal action-reaction part of relationships. And it’s huge in movies too. So then we do it. As seen on TV.
This is the girl now. I don’t have a lot to say on jealousy except that it is poisonous and it happens to me too, usually earlier in a relationship rather than later. I think it has to do with me being a control freak. Though I haven’t been jealous in a while since I’ve been single for a while, it’s exhausting just thinking about jealousy. Next topic, please.
How are we differentiating between what you write and what I write?
haha. the pithy thing is funny